Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Bible Quizzing and Why We Love It

This past Saturday, Aimee and I woke up early and drove two hours to Zanesville, OH so that she could compete in District tryouts for Bible quizzing. Aimee, Drew, Ryan, and several friends from church and beyond had been studying the book of Matthew since September, then practicing together once a week, and finally meeting with other quiz teams in Northern Kentucky each month for quiz meets. This quiz in Zanesville was for qualifying quizzers from that area, as well as from the eastern part of Ohio and from West Virgina, so that those quizzers could compete for five spots on a team that would go to Internationals this summer - the culmination of our year of studying, practicing, and quizzing together - and it was exciting, but nervewracking for Aimee, who as a 7th grader was one of the youngest competitors.

And it was a hard day. She was a rookie in the senior division, quizzing with kids who had quizzed in a District tryout setting and some who had been to Internationals before. I had tried to encourage her in the weeks leading up to it, that she had already done well throughout the year, that whatever happened at Districts would be just fine, that she had many years to try out again, so there was no pressure. But of course, there was pressure, and that's difficult to explain to people who don't know about Bible quizzing, or who have never seen it before. There's so much involved - learning the material, of course, then applying it to situations in which quizzers must "jump" off seats in order to trigger a light and be the first to answer a question that hasn't been completed, in all likelihood, then recalling what they've memorized and answering the question in thirty seconds. There's the joy and excitement of pulling information of the air, it seems like, and getting a question right. There's the disappointment of jumping too fast and knowing you don't have enough information, or of knowing that you know it...but just not being able to get it all together in time. There's the excitement for some of adding to a score that will eventually propel them above the rest, that will secure a place on the team. And there's the bitterness for others, of watching a chance grow less and less likely with each passing question. That was what happened to Aimee, who had had an exciting year throughout the regular quizzing season, but saw her hopes for Internationals dim as the day progressed. It was hard for me, both as a former quizzer very familiar with those high-stakes quiz meets and pressure situations, and as a parent, who could see frustration and disappointment building in her but couldn't do much about it!



So when we drove back home that afternoon, it wasn't on a wave of elation. But it wasn't in utter despair, either, and we even made some references to next year...because there will be a next year. Bible quizzing is near and dear to our hearts, and we'll do whatever we can to make it happen for our family, and we'll encourage and cajole  (and sometimes beg!) others to do it with us. Even our not-so-happy day on Saturday left us with examples of why we'll continue to pour time and effort into it.

1. Aimee didn't make the team, but she's left with an absolute wealth of knowledge, having most of the book of Matthew tucked away. She won't always remember it word for word, but it will come to her when she needs it, and when she reads Matthew in the future, it will be illuminated for her in way it wouldn't otherwise be, and her understanding of it will be magnified. In fact, that's the case for all the kids who studied it. Our quizzers this year joked that they would never, ever forget Matthew chapter 3, because they all enjoyed listening to a dramatic reading of it on CD. Every single one of them, down to our second graders could quote that chapter with great gusto. They shared laughs over their dramatization of it, and of other passages and verses, and we all had a great time in general...but they'll never forget it! It's seared into their minds forever.

2. Not only do our quizzers know the Scripture, but they know the pure, unaltered, no-frills version of it. The questions on Saturday, just like the ones for the whole year, are directly from the Scripture - no lessons or interpretations required. Some they have to answer in word-perfect form, others just have to be close, but still, it's just the Scripture. I don't really have a problem with Sunday School lessons taught around a Bible verse or two - unless it's some really awful application, such as what one of my kids came home with a long time ago, about the story of Joseph being about not lying - but I think people sometimes underestimate what kids can understand about the Bible. It doesn't have to be packaged in a fun, exciting form where adults tell kids what it's really about. Quizzing gives kids the opportunity to see and hear large portions of Scripture, to hide it in their hearts, and to decide for themselves whether they want to choose the path it describes. And I firmly believe that "the Word of God is living and active, " so that even if their  motives in studying now aren't entirely spiritual, God's Word will in fact work in them.

3. Quizzing teaches discipline and character in a way that few other programs do. There are no immediate rewards. (There's no candy, thank goodness!) It does take some work. They have to study in some way - some listen, some read, some of combination of both. Not everyone memorizes it, but in order to be able to answer questions at a meet, kids do have to learn at least some of it and hang on to what they've learned. Quiz meets themselves require some discipline and good sportsmanship, and the result is that, for the most part, quizzers are a group of kids who are kind and encouraging toward each other. Quizzing can be good to kids or teach them hard lessons (such as on Saturday), but more often than not, I have seen quizzers help each other deal with those joys and sorrows. On Saturday after a particularly hard quiz was over, Aimee was rather upset. Some quizzers from our area came over to her, spoke words of encouragement to her and then offered to pray for her. And those kids, those teenage kids, sat there on the floor with her and prayed with her. That was worth the whole year! Afterwards, her quizzing didn't improve, but her spirits and countenance did, and that will last with her always, I think.

4. Quizzing is for everyone. The kids who met together Saturday were a collection of the best quizzers from Ohio, West Virginia, and Kentucky, but there was no one type of person represented. There were boys and girls, introverts and extroverts, athletic types, and brainy types. This was my experience in quizzing, and I still see it today. I know that people express doubt whether their kids could memorize or would be the type to enjoy it, and I always wonder if those people, and those kids who doubt themselves, would be rather surprised! In the first place, just about anyone can memorize (did they learn the English language? do they know about things that interest them? then they can memorize!), and since there's no one way of doing it for quizzing, there's undoubtedly a way for them to memorize Scripture and to apply it in a quizzing situation. Sometimes its obvious who will do well in quizzing, and many more times, it's surprising how things turn out. In any case, quizzing is full of a lot of neat young people who get together and share God's Word.

"Full" might be the wrong word, however, because the numbers in the quizzing world are dwindling, and that saddens me. I know that Bible quizzing isn't the only way to memorize Scripture, certainly, but I wonder if kids are actually learning it quite so well in any other venue. We put a high value on memorization, but without the added motivation of Bible quizzing, I really doubt even we would be learning such large quantities of Scripture. (AWANA is great, too, by the way - we've done it, and I'm certainly not knocking it!) It's hard to "sell" quizzing these days, because life is so busy, and it seems like "one more thing" to add to those busy schedules. But for us, it's one thing that's high on the list, and I wish more people could know it and know its value. (So that's my shameless plug for quizzing - look into it! Do it!)

So we'll take a rest for a couple months and get back into it in the summer. They'll be diving into Romans and James next school year, which probably seems intimidating to most adults! But the kids will do it without blinking an eye. And without even realizing it, they'll be gaining knowledge and skills that will last them a lifetime and beyond.


Thursday, March 28, 2013

A Day In The Life

A friend of mine recently shared her day in pictures, in thirty-minute increments, so I shamelessly swiped the idea from here, recorded my day yesterday accordingly...and here you go:

7:30am


I had been awake for about half an hour at this point, but I didn't think a picture of me just deciding how to get up without waking anyone would be at all interesting. As it is, you can hardly see what I left when I finally did decide to get up. Just take my word for it - it's sleeping little people- all over the place.


 And the cat was waiting for me as soon as I got up. "Feed me. NOW."

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8:00 am

Ryan woke up and we watched the elmination episode of Dancing with the Stars from the previous night while I had my coffee. Yeah, we did, and I just admitted it. So there.

8:30am
The boys helped themselves to some computer time.Yes,  I probably should have insisted that they ask permission, but it was PBS online, so it probably counted for something. Ahem. Also Chase was the one who got on the computer first (he snuck in there quietly while Ryan and I were in the living room - see above picture), and while on the one hand it's annoying that he can access any computer or electronic device in the house and figure out all the passwords, on the other, sometimes I just have to give him credit for being smart, determined, and tech-savvy.

9:00 am
Breakfast!

9:30 am
We looked at some animal videos Granddaddy sent.

10:00 am
We read in Matthew, then in Redwall.

10:30 am
Chase felt like he needed more oatmeal. 

11:00 am
While I was helping the boys get ready, Scarlett helped herself to some of my make-up. I let her see her handiwork in the mirror (and then, yes, I did take the mascara away).

11:30am
There's no picture because I was busy herding kids into the car to go the library, and usually that does take a full half hour.

12:00am
We made it! The boys must run first to stand by the flagpoles. I'm not sure why. At any rate, with that ritual completed, we made our way in to the library.

12:30 pm. 
We were still there, of course. While I checked out our stacks of books, Chase and Scarlett checked out some library bags, each three books based on a theme and a fun manipulative to go with the theme. 

1:00 pm
Lunch

1:30 pm
We read one of the books we checked out.

2:00 pm
I put Scarlett down for her nap. Yes, I did nurse her down, even though she is in fact almost three!

2:30 pm
I made sure Aimee was doing her Latin, as instructed...



...and I had Drew do some reading in Science, although for him it's probably just a bit superfluous.
 3:00 pm


3:30 pm
Scarlett was still sleeping, Aimee up in her room, the boys were quiet, and I had a date with my steam mop. I skipped the picture.

4:00 pm
Scarlett woke up, so the boys and I went upstairs with her, and we all read a few more books.

4:30 pm
Aimee had asked me to touch up her aqua highlights, so we had a hair coloring session.

5:00 pm
Scarlett helped me make some omelettes for dinner.

5:30 pm
Dinner was a bit hurried, and a help-yourself sort of affair, as the kids were getting ready to go to church.

6:00 pm
Dave took the kids to church. (In this picture, Aimee is groaning, "Another picture? Has it seriously been thirty minutes already?")

7:00 pm
The 6:30 picture wouldn't have been very exciting. This one pretty much captures what Scarlett and I did while the older kids were gone. Laundry, and some more laundry. 

8:30 pm

This kids came home, and bedtime commenced, which I didn't manage to capture in pictures. Suffice it to say that at various points in the next couple of hours, the kids went to sleep, and eventually, so did we.

So there you have it. Pretty grueling, raising and homeschooling five kids, eh? ;-) 







Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Good Morning



“Do you wish me a good morning, or mean that it is a good morning whether I want it or not; or that you feel good this morning; or that it is a morning to be good on?”


That's one of our favorite quotes from The Hobbit, and it really has nothing to do at all with this post. It's just fun.

So. It's been a really long time since I've been here. I've actually started a few posts, when I've stolen snatches of time, but they've just never really come together, and I don't really know why. We've been busy enough and have done plenty of interesting things in the last few months.

At any rate, I'm sitting here in a quiet moment, having a cup of coffee and watching the falling snow, and I'm determined to get something - anything - out there in the blogging world again! A recap of our last few months would take too long. An update about how everyone is doing would probably be boring. So perhaps this one will just be a "hello, I'm still here" sort of post. And here I am, indeed. Any minute the munchkins upstairs - but some of them aren't quite munchkins anymore, are they!? - will wake and dispel the quiet. Hopefully they won't be too dismayed to discover that purposeful learning is on the agenda today!

So good morning, friends. Hope to back soon with something a bit more substantial and edifying.

Good Morning


“Do you wish me a good morning, or mean that it is a good morning whether I want it or not; or that you feel good this morning; or that it is a morning to be good on?”


That's one of our favorite quotes from The Hobbit, and it really has nothing to do at all with this post. It's just fun.

So. It's been a really long time since I've been here. I've actually started a few posts, when I've stolen snatches of time, but they've just never really come together, and I don't really know why. We've been busy enough and have done plenty of interesting things in the last few months.

At any rate, I'm sitting here in a quiet moment, having a cup of coffee and watching the falling snow, and I'm determined to get something - anything - out there in the blogging world again! A recap of our last few months would take too long. An update about how everyone is doing would probably be boring. So perhaps this one will just be a "hello, I'm still here" sort of post. And here I am, indeed. Any minute the munchkins upstairs - but some of them aren't quite munchkins anymore, are they!? - will wake and dispel the quiet. Hopefully they won't be too dismayed to discover that purposeful learning is on the agenda today!

So good morning, friends. Hope to back soon with something a bit more substantial and edifying.


Sunday, January 6, 2013

Forget Socialization - Let's Have Civilization

I have mentioned before on this blog that in answer to the "what about socialization" question, it's okay to admit that the truth is that we're not really interested in much of what is involved in said "socialization." In fact, I often feel like turning this around and asking (in all honesty) those with kids in any type of school, "Yes, what ABOUT socialization? How do you deal with that?" It seems like hard work. Oh, but do you mean, "How do you learn how to get along with other people in society?" That's a different question, and it seems like such a ridiculous one to ask of homeschoolers that I always want to play dumb and act like that's not what people are asking. We would have to go out of our way to avoid interacting with anyone, and anyone with a large-ish family knows you don't even have to leave the house to encounter learning how to live with different personalities.

Anyway, this still comes up from time to time, of course, and I always think about the irony of it when my kids are with their slew of friends. This happened a few weeks ago when Dave and I were taking our Bible quiz team to a quiz meet (I should really discuss the merits of Bible quizzing sometime, but that's for another day). We had our five children, three from another family, and two from yet another family. All told, we were in a 15 passenger van with a mix of boys and girls (mostly boys!) ranging from age 2 to age 13, and our round trip travel time was four hours.  We never heard of any unkindness or belittling,and certainly no bullying. There was no name-calling, no raised voices, and no fighting.We never once had to correct anyone or break up fights. Now, there were a couple of mild disagreements, but they worked them out among themselves. There were three or four electronic devices - a couple of Kindle Fires, and a couple of Nintendo DS devices. And they shared them. The older ones made suggestions about how to work out turns, and the younger ones deffered to them -and not because they were bullied into anything, but because the older ones were reasonable and fair. It was clear that they commanded respect, not fear. I heard later that the two oldest kids in the van didn't get a turn at all on the way down - and one of them owned one of the devices being played!

So I thought about the ridiculousness of the "socialization" question as I listened to all this going on, and really, I thought again about how what I was witnessing was a group of "unsocialized" kids being civilized, something that, to me, is worth way more that socialization. I don't have any interest in my kids learning how to survive the jungle law of an isolated group of 12 year-olds, or 10 year -olds, or so on. But I do want them to know how to earn respect, and how to give it. I want them to know how to be patient, kind, and diplomatic. I want them to be compassionate, and to look out for others.

Now, I know firsthand that some of those kids - the five who came from our house!- can behave in very uncivilized ways. The other kids are from families we know , and I'm pretty sure they have some of the same issues. I'm sure they battle unkindness, impatience, and selfishness daily in their family, as we do in ours. I'm sure that sometimes they are dismayed to hear their children at each other's throats, and I'm sure they have days of petty bickering - all day long. I'm sure they pray for their children, and with their children, and encourage purity of heart, and thus of behavior. If it's this hard when we have our children all day long, when we can identify and address the baser elements of their human nature throughout the day, how hard must it be for you all who have to undo "socialization?" I'm not being facetious or unkind, truly! I'm just saying that I know this must be difficult, and I humbly submit that "socialization" is not as much a problem issue for homeschoolers as it is for those in brick and mortar schools.

In any case, it is a relief and a joy to see the fruit of our labor, to see kids behaving in such a civilized way. That's what we're after. Socialization can be kept by those who want it - we don't!

"Good Housekeeping" Need Not Apply

I began going to La Leche League meetings when Aimee was about nine months old, and I remember one of the pressing questions I had was about sleep, and how to get any of it with an active, growing baby. One of the Leaders in the Group at that time gave me some helpful suggestions about bed and sleeping arrangments, adding that "your house might not look like something out of Good Housekeeping, but you'll get some sleep!"

I am not sure if she was right about the sleep thing (haha!), but about our home not looking like anything like Good Housekeeping, well, about that she was exactly right. I remember this Leader's comment occasionally when I walk into my bedroom now and see the king size bed - on the floor - and beside it, a double mattress that is supposed to be for the two (and sometimes three) kids who like to sleep with us but whose growing size makes things a little crowded. Usually a parent ends up there instead, sometimes with a child, sometimes not.  In fact, sleep happens (or doesn't happen) all over the house, and usually not in the intended areas for each person. So there are lots of blankets and pillows all over the bedrooms, and not very much is color coordinated. (Or if it is, like in our bedroom - sort of - a couple of bold, sweeping marks from permanent markers have kept us humble.)

And so it is in other areas of our house, where function is so much more important than form. Nothing in our house would be featured in any magazine - unless there's some kind of homeschooling, attachement parenting  magazine that caters to the very small percentage of people with whom we identify. I like some kind of order, and touches of beauty here and there, and I do think there is intrinsic value in those things. But still, we live here, learn here, work here, discover here, grow here, socialize here, argue and make up here...We have friends over, but we don't "entertain." We like to have a pleasant environment, but we don't want just to sit around and look at nice things. We definitely don't want to have things so nice that we have to fuss at little people all the time and make sure those people don't bother or break those things. We can have "things" later. Maybe. Right now we have lots of growing, active people, and lots of ideas floating around.
We have Bible flashcards and alphabet flashcards all over the dining room walls, along with a couple of Latin prayers, a list of English kings, and the table of elements. I printed out some verses (you know, mostly subtle things about loving each other and regarding each other's needs about your own) and tacked them on the walls upstairs by the bedrooms. Someone gave us a wine cabinet a few months ago, and it currently houses some art supplies. In the living room, my couch is waving its last white flag of surrender, and I've finally accepted the fact that I can't eke any more time out of it. It will be nice to have something without rips. But still, I find I don't even want anything too nice, because I know it will be subject to the not-so-gentle treatment of growing boys and a dog (the girls tend to be less hard on furniture).

So...I find that twelve years down the road of our family journey, we certainly don't have a "Good Housekeeping" sort of house. We do have lots of life, love, and learning, though, and all kinds of other things of eternal value, so I'll take that trade-off any day. Which is what I remind myself when I wood-glue another chair or find a new drawing on the wall...


Monday, December 10, 2012

School's Out!

It's been ages! It isn't as though there hasn't been plenty to write about - life has been full and colorful, as always. So I don't really have any good excuses. And now that we're on break from that which we call "school," I have no excuses. Today, for instance, I started to say, "Okay, maybe we should go..." and then I paused to consider the relative silence and the absolute harmony in the house. The older boys were (and still are) upstairs playing with their new Lego sets - together, and happily - and Chase and Scarlett were playing together. Why should we break this up to go anywhere? Errands can wait.

So here I am just sitting, and able to write. My foremost thought is that while this "break" affords me some time to do just that, our break isn't all that much different from life when school is "on." In fact, when I was putting one of the boys to bed last night, I mentioned something about no school today, and he said, "Really? Cool!", and I replied, "Yes. We didn't have any school last week, either. You didn't notice?" And no, he didn't. "No school" pretty much just means I won't ask anyone to write a paper or do some grammar copywork. In the meantime, they're still reading (reading, reading, reading), listening to books on CD,  building with Legos, drawing inventions, playing card games and board games, doing puzzles, going to the library, exploring nature, baking and cooking with me...and rejoicing about how they don't have any "school." It's really quite amusing.

Now, in a couple more weeks, the lack of even the little bit of structure we call "school" will be evident, and I'll have to rein things back in a little. But for now, we just...enjoy life and happily anticipate Christmas.

And the release of Les Miserables, about which I am really, really excited!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHHHUk8RCw